Fear runs the world. Countries stockpile weapons, families stockpile food, companies stockpile cash, people miss opportunities, they don’t take chances, and just about everyone worries about many things out of their control >> ALL BECAUSE OF FEAR.
Fear is one of the most powerful “drivers of people” that exists. Every single day fear is used with incredible skill and precision by media, advertisers, governments, and influencers.
What can you do to avoid falling into the trap of fear? What can be done to prevent the inevitable control fear puts on our lives?
There are literally dozens of excellent books written on this very subject, far too much relevant and suitable material to cover in one micro blog post to be sure, but I have found in my life, two specific actions which can address fear in a pretty dramatic way.
First, know your why.
Know exactly why you do what you do, and who you are.
An intimate understanding of the “reasons” behind your actions will empower you to move right past doubt and fears when they creep in. Oh, you’ll still have them, probably every day, but if you know the purpose behind your decisions, you’ll find it so much easier to get back into focus, moving past the fears that try to set you back.
When fear sets REMIND yourself of your why, your purpose.
Second, think about and accept the possible worse case scenario.
I do this often and have found it’s one of the most powerful exercises a person can do. When fear sets in and starts to cause doubt, I immediately think through and sometimes even write out, what that fear, if fully realized would mean in my life.
At first, this is an intimidating exercise. However, it always, and I mean always, creates incredible perspective on what my fear is. Once I take the time to think through and write out what my worst fear is my point of view drastically changes. I call this the “how bad would it really be” exercise.
If your fear does come to reality in the worse case scenario, how bad would it really be? If you started that business you are dreaming about, if you quit or take that job, if you buy or sell that house, if you try to start that relationship, or tell a friend something difficult they need to hear. AND THEN IT GOES BAD, WORSE CASE BAD.
How BAD would it really be?
If you take that job, and it sucks, how bad would it really be, would it be the end of your life?
If you risk and reach out to start that new relationship and get rejected, would you be defeated?
If you start that business and it fails, how bad would that really be?
“Chris, you don’t understand, I don’t have extra money, I might loose my house, how would I…” Stop right there, do you realize that most of the world doesn’t even have a house? Would it suck yes, would you loose your house? Probably not, and if you did, again, how bad would it really be? Play it out, and BE honest, what if you had to move in with a friend for a while?
For most intelligent people the momentary setback of 6 or 10 months is peanuts compared to the likely 80+ years of life they are going to experience. NOT taking the risk because of the fear of failure means a life of never knowing what it would be like if success were realized.
It’s time to get a little more honest with yourself about the fears holding you back, it’s time to know who you are, why you do what you do, and start living that way. It’s time to stop and ask yourself, “why am I not doing what I know I should be,” and really be truthful about how bad it would be if that fear was realized, it’s usually not all that bad when compared with the opportunity before you.
Kick fear in the butt, move past it, do something amazing.
Inspiration from Instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/BJOV5j1AEHZ/
Refuse to let your fears lock you out.
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